Dear Michelle...
I am writing to inform you of some things you should know and would ask you please to read this with an open mind. I am not here to split your relationship up, nor am I writing to be mean or nasty. I am writing to say to you what I wish someone had told me a long time ago.
Your current partner, Paul, is my husband, although, as you know, we are separated and going through a divorce. I am not trying to get him back as I have no wish to go through everything again. I freely admit that I still love him, however I will not subject myself to his abuse, belittling, abuse or violence again. I left to get away from the violence he had been inflicting on me for some years and was given the courage to leave in November 2007.
I'm not going to go into details here. The whole truth can be found by reading my blog entries from November 07 onwards. I am writing this in the hope of preventing your relatiopnship with Paul going the same way as I wouldn't wish the problems I had and am still having on anyone else.
I sincerely hope he treats you better than he did me. At first he was wonderful- kind, talkative, generous, helpful, the sort of man who would move heaven and earth for me if I asked him to- everything I could possibly have wanted in a man. As time went on he became the violent bully I finally ran away from. I hope to God you never see that side of him and that he stays the caring, considerate person you probably have as your partner now.
I thought long and hard before writing this, knowing how it could be received, but I hope that you will read and understand that I would feel an immense guilt if he ever raised a hand to you or yours, knowing that I could have said something to let you know how he can be. Prevention is better than cure, as they say.
If you want to talk, you can contact me the way I will contact you to send this.
Kind regards
M
Your current partner, Paul, is my husband, although, as you know, we are separated and going through a divorce. I am not trying to get him back as I have no wish to go through everything again. I freely admit that I still love him, however I will not subject myself to his abuse, belittling, abuse or violence again. I left to get away from the violence he had been inflicting on me for some years and was given the courage to leave in November 2007.
I'm not going to go into details here. The whole truth can be found by reading my blog entries from November 07 onwards. I am writing this in the hope of preventing your relatiopnship with Paul going the same way as I wouldn't wish the problems I had and am still having on anyone else.
I sincerely hope he treats you better than he did me. At first he was wonderful- kind, talkative, generous, helpful, the sort of man who would move heaven and earth for me if I asked him to- everything I could possibly have wanted in a man. As time went on he became the violent bully I finally ran away from. I hope to God you never see that side of him and that he stays the caring, considerate person you probably have as your partner now.
I thought long and hard before writing this, knowing how it could be received, but I hope that you will read and understand that I would feel an immense guilt if he ever raised a hand to you or yours, knowing that I could have said something to let you know how he can be. Prevention is better than cure, as they say.
If you want to talk, you can contact me the way I will contact you to send this.
Kind regards
M
posted by Me at 7:18 pm
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